Sir has instructed me to do some research on Protocols- Low, Medium and High. And give examples of each that we might find ourselves within. Protocols, hmm. I thought I was well informed, been around the block persay in D/s ways…but protocols? That’s something I had not heard before. This should be easy, right? Not really. The more I seemed to dig, the more I found..and the more complex it seemed to become!
So, what is the Dictionary’s definition of protocol?
Protocol is most often used when talking about the rules of government or official agencies. It is derived from the French and refers to the correct rules of etiquette for diplomats.
The term protocol is used in many areas besides diplomatic ones. School marching bands or college admissions offices follow protocols, and doctors use them to treat patients with specific conditions. In tech circles, a protocol is a set of standards that programmers follow so that their work can be decoded by other computers. The p in the http of a web address is short for protocol. Without this type of protocol, you would not able to read this page.
PRIMARY MEANINGS OF: protocol
|n||forms of ceremony and etiquette observed by diplomats and heads of state|
|n||(computer science) rules determining the format and transmission of data|
Okay…interesting information, but definitely not the right track, well not completely anyways. Protocol…a form of ceremony and etiquette. That makes sense in a D/s light, right? So I refined my search to “submissive protocols”. Aha! Now we were getting somewhere, a LOT of pages came up and I read through several. (I think this is where I first found you Lex…*waves!*) This is also where I started losing track. Some articles spoke of protocols purely as a duty or service (aka rules) between you and your Dominant…others referenced it as a status…and still others seemed to be both: levels of protocols adhered to at certain times depending upon what level of protocol your Dom puts you in. *scratches head* Well, I re-read through all of it once more and hopefully I am on the right track for this assignment.
I also found this quote, which may define them better than I:
“Protocols are also in place at such things as formal collarings, or training workshops, where certain codes of conduct are expected, and should be adhered to by everyone.
Etiquette is like a set of protocols or rules for social situations. Many Dominants like the formal side of D/s so they tend to teach their submissives to use correct etiquette, and to learn what is appropriate and when.”
Got that? 🙂 Now what about the 3 levels of protocol?
Low Protocol – Is very casual, the most easy going of the three protocols. It may be used in an environment such as a family dinner, a vanilla situation where others who may not be aware of your D/s lifestyle are surrounding you. A girl’s submission may not be actively shown at this time, however it is still very much on her mind and she still shows respect- perhaps so subtle that only her Sir would recognize it.
I think this is a given state at all times, perhaps even medium, anytime you are with your Dom…or not. Perhaps not for all subs, but i try my hardest in always striving to be pleasing, to obey, to act as i’ve been (will be?) taught. I am the happiest when He is happy.
Medium/Public Protocol – Seems to be only slightly elevated than low protocol. Everything is less subtle and actions such as being allowed to wear your collar at the dinner table, while doing housework or perhaps even going grocery shopping are permitted. A girl is able to speak freely, but still very mindful of what is said and of being respectful. I think this would be the most common protocol in a 24/7 situation, especially if no kids were around. I think if children were present, low protocol might be more commonplace- except for of course the times where a girl and her Dom could be alone… *winks*
High/Club Protocol – There seems to be a BIG jump from medium to high protocol, and this is the most “demanding” of the three. There is no hiding of your D/s status in public, might even be considered flaunting it (well hopefully my Sir would like to show off how well trained his girl is, right??). When a girl is instructed by her Dom and put on high protocol, girl’s focus and attention is ONLY on her Dom- speaking to only Him (unless he tells her otherwise). She should be sure that she is acting/behaving properly and accordingly to the situation. She should also position herself as taught by her Dom such as a specific kneel beside him, with eyes lowered. Places this could transpire at would include formal D/s meetings such as a munch, club, or party..but it is not limited to that. One sub commented that her Sir put her on high protocol at home, leashed to him the entire day and doing everything for him: getting his newspaper, cleaning his shoes, sitting beside him, etc. was the anniversary of her Mother’s death, and he knew she needed to find her focus in order not to wallow in her grief. She said it helped tremendously, and I must say I can empathize with that and see where it certainly would.
(And even after all this..I still somehow want to keep typing protocal!! )