Very often you hear the term sub-frenzy- which is the overwhelming need to experience submission. The submissive will do anything to achieve it, no matter how stupid or un-safe an environment they put themselves in. I fully admit, I have been guilty of doing this. However, with recent events, I am left wondering…is there such a thing as Dom-frenzy? A need equal, yet opposite of sub-frenzy? Where the Dom has the overwhelming need to dominate…no matter what the situation. No matter who the girl is, or even if a girl is already collared. Where is it only His wants and needs that seem to matter. I wonder this because I have had a few “friends” I’ve been talking with who are Doms, and who I have known for some time…who have suddenly seemed to go crazy and want to lock their collars on me. Some even have other subs, SL and RL…so, why?? Is it purely just a control issue? Their words and actions speak only for themselves and their wants. I don’t even think it is necessarily me that they want, but the fact that I have accepted another’s collar makes it a challenge for them?? First one to collar all the sluts wins?? Sir and I spoke briefly about this the other night…but it’s still been on my mind as yet another gent had come forward last night. Is this perhaps just an SL thing, like the “Masters” who like to hoard girls? A stream of fakers? Making up for RL insecurities or issues by being the big, tough guy that can get all the chicks online? Lindens can buy you the hottest of avatars, true…however your attitude- well, once a prick, always a prick. Confidence is sexy, not cockiness- and yes, it absolutely can be picked up through text.
Names will be omitted, but these are examples of what I mean. And, yes, at times I asked further when I perhaps should have simply muted..but it was rather eye opening!
C: are you frigthened of committing to more for Me?
Ash: i am not frightened, but as said earlier i am already talking with another Dom
C: I see. So..you arent interested in a future as an upstairs slave for Me here?
Ash: Your home is nice, and you and your girl seemed to be also…but i do have issues in being part of a harem so to speak. And I do hope for more RP then just sitting in a cell
C: I see
Ash: And it is not a guarantee I could even make it to be an upstairs slave hmm? First i must prove myself..what if i cannot?
C: then you are released or sold
Ash: what is the difference in upstairs slaves, other than dress?
C: they get freedoms- they are not confined to cells, they get to go out of the castle when I permit, they get to go shopping go to other sims, etc.
Ash: so very different
C: than being downstairs?
C: intentionally so, yes
C: you cannot even serve a little time in y crevat for ME?
Ash: serve a little time?
C: yes, give ME a few hours in bondage
C: you cant do that?
Ash: and if the other Dom signs online, how will that look to him? I’ve been talking with him for nearly a week now, purposefully taking our time not to rush- it will look like im a velcro collar girl, no?
C: No, it will be doing him a favor, perhaps making a better, more decisive dom of him
Things that make you go hmm, hmm?
And what of this?
J: Hello again toy.
Ash: hello Sir
J: Tell me girl, do I frighten you?
Ash: No Sir
J: And does it matter where you are and what you are doing when you are called on by a Master?
Ash: yes, it does
J: No it doesn’t, you come running when you are called girl. You are here to serve, everything else is a luxury that you are allowed to have when it does not interfere with your service.
Ash: This isn’t Gor…we are on Earth. And even so, if I was talking with other Masters, it is rude to them, no?
J: Not that I have staked my claim on you first.
Ash: You have not collared me?
J: I intend to once I have finished assessing you and deciding if I want to keep you. Of course it’s obvious you need a lot of retraining.
Ash: And if i dont wish to be kept?
J: Who was asking your opinion?
Ash: A sub has a right to express her opinion
J: Yes she does, but it doesn’t mean that her opinion will be heeded. A Woman has no Rights.
Ash: Well would you like to speak with the Dom whose collar i will be taking upon my neck? you never even friended me, yet you wanted to collar me? i don’t understand.
J: I was actually planning on doing that tonight toy. The last couple of times we spoke you were not very attentive.
Ash: i cant control my net, and i did not think the request to strip was fair as i had said i was in other convos?
J: You thought? Is it your place to question the instructions you are given?
Ash: So again you wished me to be rude to the Dom i was speaking with?
J: I wished for you to follow the instructions I give you, as you are well aware of my intentions to collar and train you.
Ash: No i was not aware..even tonight you said you hadn’t made up your mind to collar me?
J: If I had no interest at all in collaring you, why would I be wasting my time talking to you. The assessment is to see if there is anything about you that would make me longer wish to collar and train you.
Ash: so talking to me was a waste of time either way
J: And why is that?
Ash: you said it would be wasting time talking to me if not interested. we started talking weeks ago, no add as a friend…i cannot presume you are so serious
J: Oh so my manner to you was not serious?
Ash: collaring i do take seriously. i give up. i am taking a collar, by one who thinks i’m actually well trained already- so i am sorry that i was an asshole and wasted all your time
J: I decide if it was a waste of my time or not, and I still intent to collar you and train you as mine own.
Ash: So you wish to speak with my Master about that?
J: Oh please, I’ll just wait till he leaves like all the others that have owned you, I’m a patient man.
Ash: wow, thanks very much for that..shows how compassionate you are.
J: What does compassion have to do with taking you as my property and breeding and using you like the object that you are?
Ash: i am not an object, i am not a robot. i have feelings and emotions…which you obviously lack.
J: You are an object to be owned and used, and if you are a good toy then you earn the rights I wish for you have.
Ash: Which would be none since you have no compassion for a girl?
J: I do have compassion for a girl who strives to obey and please me.
Ash: i dont see how when you only view her as an object, not permitted feelings or thoughts
J: You are permitted feelings and thoughts, and you are allowed to express them. But the only thing that matters is what I wish of you.
Ash: That is not what you said earlier? ” You thought? Is it your place to question the instructions you are given?”
J: Read the second sentence I said. The only thing that matters is what I wish of you.
And it continued. I explained to him no I was not going to obey him, no I was not going to play with him, no I was not going to do as he told me- I have found a Sir whom I value and was not going to betray him by doing ANYTHING with J, surely he could understand that as a Dom? Nope. It just instigated more and more connotations of how untrained I was since I was not listening to HIM…mute.
I cannot say I have encountered this before, and to have several Doms act this way in one week (I believe J made #4)…what the hell is going on??